280 Tom Scharpling
a world-class ingrate on some level, but I’m sorry, I simply cannot
handle the pressure generated by moments like this. I’d love to be
gracious in these moments, but I feel the weight of it all: the wasted
money, the false gratitude, all of it.
It took a modication in the gift-giving procedure in my family
for me to nally see a path toward an Escape from Alcatraz–style
breakout. Our family kept growing through marriages and children,
so buying a present for everybody wasn’t nancially feasible. My
aunts came up with a plan: Instead of buying small presents for
everybody, we would each buy one larger present for one relative.
If you’re not familiar with how Secret Santa works, it’s simple: On
Thanksgiving, everyone would write their names on a slip of paper
and drop it into a bowl. Then the bowl would get passed around,
with everybody withdrawing a slip of paper that revealed who you
would buy a larger Christmas present for that year.
This new approach made sense from a nancial perspective, but
from a “I am bad at receiving presents” angle it was terrible news!
In the chaos of everyone tearing open multiple presents, if my fake
reaction was less than convincing, it might go completely unnoticed.
If a gift sucked, everyone would still be consumed with making
their way to the bottom of their small pile of presents. But if you’re
only receiving one gift? You’re on the hot seat, Jack! The gift-giver
spent fty bucks instead of the twenty the previous administration
called for, so they’re gonna stare right at your face as your thumbs
slide beneath the wrapping paper, just waiting for the moment you
realize you’ve been given an autographed photo of the MyPillow
guy. What, you don’t like it? But I thought you loved pillows! I know
you like sleeping!
This dynamic would not stand for Young Tom. No, no, no. Some-
thing had to change. I stomped into my bedroom and tried to gure
out a solution. I looked upward for answers, and by that I mean
I cocked my head toward the Depeche Mode poster hanging on
the wall. “What should I do, Andy Fletcher? I’m tired of all this
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